tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14733404.post4034732498455163313..comments2024-01-08T05:50:04.098-05:00Comments on baxter sez: More thoughts on the name change questionAlison Piepmeierhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17972854288403934814noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14733404.post-22077272429379615262007-11-13T12:04:00.000-05:002007-11-13T12:04:00.000-05:00I just got married and am (slowly) in the process ...I just got married and am (slowly) in the process of changing my name and I have to say that the figuring out how to sign a christmas card with different last names is a whole lot easier than going to social security and filling out name change forms, changing your drivers license, your passport, your bank cards, not to mention your signature!Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03710011411012036636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14733404.post-40644529586667261142007-11-08T16:47:00.000-05:002007-11-08T16:47:00.000-05:00One good source about all this is actually Judith ...One good source about all this is actually Judith Martin, aka Miss Manners, who has written many times over the years about the ins and outs of marriage and name-changing. As you might guess, her focus is on the etiquette end of things, but as the students' reactions suggest, people's etiquette concerns are real, and intensely felt.<BR/><BR/>So check out some Miss Manners books. As I recall, her advice is very practical and funny.Kenneth Burnshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15252529691032736458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14733404.post-24220743987326491082007-11-08T10:32:00.000-05:002007-11-08T10:32:00.000-05:00Wow, what a lot of great comments! Is there a boo...Wow, what a lot of great comments! Is there a book out there that's collected men's and women's name-change stories? If not, someone should do that (Debbie? Kelly?).<BR/><BR/>I don't know what the law in SC is about the child's name--I guess I might find out eventually. Claire or Conseula, do you know? And Deandra, I did share your info about the laws in Alabama with the kids at Auburn, and they were appropriately shocked.<BR/><BR/>So, Debbie, the big question is, if you hyphenate, will Marco do it, too?Alison Piepmeierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17972854288403934814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14733404.post-73666462714403189722007-11-08T06:10:00.000-05:002007-11-08T06:10:00.000-05:00Awesome responses to the kids' questions, A! I ke...Awesome responses to the kids' questions, A! I kept my name last time. I was pretty certain I'd keep it the same again. Demise of brief first marriage had nothing to do with keeping my name of course! But I now find myself playing with the idea of hypenating, after a close friends decided to go the hypen route at the very last minute--aka, in line waiting for their marriage license at City Hall. I'll stay Deborah Siegel in print forevermore, but I must say I do like the idea of merging our names: Siegel-Acevedo. Jew girl-Latin boy. I dunno, it just kind of grooves me. But jury's out. We'll see!Deborah Siegelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00640101198258524986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14733404.post-23684946266593833982007-11-05T19:06:00.000-05:002007-11-05T19:06:00.000-05:00One other bit of context--in Alabama, at least unt...One other bit of context--in Alabama, at least until VERY recently, women's names were legally changed to their husbands, whether they wanted it to be or not. To NOT change your name, you had to petition for it.<BR/>-djlAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14733404.post-73116084716197993242007-11-05T17:02:00.000-05:002007-11-05T17:02:00.000-05:00I have so many things to say about this...but real...I have so many things to say about this...but really would like to have an over-coffee conversation at some point. My question is: Is it true that in the state of South Carolina, your children are required on their birth certificates to take the father's last name?Kelly Lovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04921786976286066911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14733404.post-61466649798194359032007-11-05T15:20:00.000-05:002007-11-05T15:20:00.000-05:00I spent much of my childhood with the Khasi tribe ...I spent much of my childhood with the Khasi tribe in the hills of NE India - one of the few real matrilineal tribes. Children actually took the mother's last name and my daughter liked the fact that the youngest daughter inherited.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14733404.post-44344547267077919352007-11-04T12:22:00.000-05:002007-11-04T12:22:00.000-05:00I'm a Baird, always have been, always will be. It ...I'm a Baird, always have been, always will be. It is a very Western-world practice, taking the husband's name. Surprisingly, Muslim women do not take their husband's names on the premise that women are persons in their own right, and do not lose their identity when they get married.<BR/>Likewise, if they adopt a child, they do not change the child's name.Quichehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18390057086505601302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14733404.post-20345490657285194042007-11-04T08:27:00.000-05:002007-11-04T08:27:00.000-05:00I kept mine, and usually when the topic comes up, ...I kept mine, and usually when the topic comes up, I either get a very positive, "Good for you!" response, or I get a wilting look and a back-handed remark, like, "Maybe you'll re-think that for your SECOND marriage." (That one has actually happened.)Alexandrialeighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06320541464789735255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14733404.post-55035009483307223202007-11-03T21:44:00.000-05:002007-11-03T21:44:00.000-05:00You may be surprised to know my sister didn't chan...You may be surprised to know my sister didn't change her name when she got married. I was in the receiving line at the church after the wedding, standing next to her new husband's grandparents. I asked, "So, Amanda, what's your name now? Young? Matthews? Young-Matthews?" My sister hit me with a look of pure steel and said, "My name is YOUNG. It has always been Young and it will always BE Young." Grandma almost passed out. It was a beautiful moment.Curtishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11026534778346435864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14733404.post-67670039466912275922007-11-03T15:33:00.000-05:002007-11-03T15:33:00.000-05:00Makes me think of how Rev John used to address you...Makes me think of how Rev John used to address you. Would make great Xmas card signatures "Lord and Lady Biffle-Piepmeier"<BR/><BR/>christieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14733404.post-84634799016447810432007-11-03T10:55:00.000-05:002007-11-03T10:55:00.000-05:00Perhaps it's the result of living in gratifyingly ...Perhaps it's the result of living in gratifyingly progressive Madison, Wis. -- or, at least, not living in the South -- but most women I encounter don't change their name when they get married.<BR/><BR/>At a staff meeting the other day a new employee introduced herself, and after she said her name she said she was still getting used to it, having recently gotten married. I actually had to think about what she was saying for a minute, because at first I didn't get it.Kenneth Burnshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15252529691032736458noreply@blogger.com